Bleh with Barry

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Condescending Phrases: Really? Why not just say it?

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So, this morning I awoke to the sound of thunder crashing, rain hitting my windows, and the sound of my smartphone saying that I had an email. Being the compulsive email checker that I am, I immediately opened it (this is due to a job that I have at the moment…I like to stay connected and much of it is done through email…but anyway). From glancing at my phone, I realized that I had two: one from Big Lots proclaiming that my ad was ready and the other one that said from Me to Me, which I thought was weird. So, I opened this one post haste…and found an email from someone (can’t reveal too much due to reasons that are beyond me…we’ll call them God…yes or maybe Carol Channing) who said “With all due respect”…and yeah….

Alright, I’ll admit for me I had to show a lot of self-restraint…especially to someone who I have never seen nor met…Why one might ask? Well, it makes it easier for me to be an asshole if I’ve never really met a person. Moreover, the phrase “With all due respect” is notoriously condescending in my mind. I mean yes I understand that the person is trying to be nice and say to me that I respect what you have said, but…there’s always the but. Honestly, I don’t necessarily think that one can respect something and immediately turn around and undermine the person’s authority. Needless to say, I would respect some one like this more if they said that they “respectfully disagree”…I feel that this would be a more appropriate phrase to put in email or writing. Again, one might ask why? I feel as though that this is saying it all up front. I’m going to disagree with you from the beginning…alright, I would probably just tell the person that I disagree with them because I’m that kind of person…the respectfully just makes it a little more formal in my mind, which may be going against all that I’ve written to this point but I’m still a little irritated by the person’s email.

So, yeah, it’s always fun answering emails and other forms of correspondence from people who send you items like this. The reason is that you know no matter what you say or do that they are not going to be satisfied with your answers because they’ve already written you off as a casualty to their skewed sense of self-perception. Honestly, these people would probably not fall into the 2% of the world that I could coexist peacefully. My PSA would be before you put this phrase in something you send to someone you perceive to be a lesser think about it and just tell them that you disagree because no matter how you polish it, a condescending turd is a condescending turd is a condescending turd…

Written by uncannynerdyguy

June 28, 2011 at 10:07 am

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  1. you would like my dad’s sign off “digustedly yours”


    July 2, 2011 at 11:33 pm

    • I think if someone wrote something like this on an email or letter to me I would laugh and appreciate it…that’s just the kind of person I am though. 😉


      July 3, 2011 at 12:37 am

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