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Peace Signs, Birds or Rockin’ Out in Photographs

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So, while flipping through photos of people on facebook the other day, I asked one of my other friends I was chatting with, “Why do people feel the need to throw up a peace sign, flip me off, or tell me to rock out via the hand gestures in their photos?” She laughed at me for saying this…partially because I went on a slight rant about it….but we eventually settled upon people just don’t know what to do in pictures and try to make themselves appear less awkward; however, as a result of  trying to spare the awkwardness, they make themselves look more awkward…

–The peace sign–you know people who have done it in photos. They seem to think that it makes them look cool. Yet, I believe they do it because they can’t think of anything better to do. I’ve got a thought just stand in the picture and smile. Why is it that you have to do anything at all? I looked at a friend of mine’s pictures, and in the picture of them and national monument, he threw up the two fingers. I thought that it was kind of ridiculous. I mean why do you have to wish peace to people from a monument. Just stand there and be yourself.

–Rockin’ Out–if you’re at a concert for let’s say Metallica or some other “rock” band, this might be an appropriate sign; however, most people do it at times that don’t require this level of celebration. If you’re at a birthday party and there is no alcohol or nothing wild going on (an extremely riveting game of Monopoly doesn’t count), then, there is nothing worthy to “rock out” to…I mean seriously…do people even know where this gesture comes from? It’s actually a ward for the evil eye…so, it’s swirled in superstition and mystery. Is that appropriate for everyday usage?

–The Bird–Possibly the most infamous hand gesture out there…it means  F You. Why is it you see so many pictures of people throwing up this sign? Surely they can’t be telling everyone who’s taking their picture to screw off. It just boggles my mind and makes me wonder if it’s appropriate to do. I mean sure I’ve probably done when my friends have taken pictures of me (I’ve probably done the others at some point too). Seriously though, why do we do it? Is it to seem big and bad? Or some other primal idiosyncrasy in our mind?

Honestly, my opinion on the whole using awkward signs in pictures is, if you’re feeling awkward and want to try to make the awkwardness better, do nothing or go over the top. In most of the pictures that are taken of me, I follow this. You’ll either see me standing there smiling or there is something over the top going on in the picture.

Go big or go home. That’s my mentality…so, before you try to make a picture less awkward next time, think about it.

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March 19, 2010 at 5:53 pm

Social Awkwardness

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Sometimes when you’re hanging around with a large group of people it becomes pretty apparent who are the outsiders of the group. However, most of the time these people separate themselves out whether intentionally or no. Some of this separation occurs when people long to have attention…you might refer to these people as attention whores  while there are others who just don’t fit in with the crowd.

1. The first group of people I think of is a group that I myself sometimes fall into. This group is the one that sometimes feels out of place in a group situation. Regularly, this type of person may interact well with a group, laugh, and have a good time. However, these people sometimes feel it necessary to distance themselves. Usually, this distance occurs when the person is thinking or just chooses to be alone. This group takes in most people because let’s face it most people are like this from time to time.

2. These are the people who separate themselves because they unintentionally make things awkward. These are the ones who make the inappropriate jokes that leave people not laughing (you know the moments when you just gasp). These people are on the outskirts of groups because they just don’t really click with the whole (let’s face it, no matter how hard you try, there will always be “clicks”).

3. These are the people that separate themselves intentionally and unintentionally. These are the attention seekers. They look to make themselves stand out from the group, and thereby, they ostracize themselves from it even more as a result. These people are ones that fake sick or cry or other “pitiful” acts in order to elicit sympathy from people. This is why I say that their decision is both intentional and unintentional because they deliberately do this to themselves unknowing that they will be locked out of the group. These people also try to pull sympathy from acquantances…which in my book is overstepping a cardinal friendship rule. You don’t pour your heart out to people that you don’t know…good God, it’s faux pas. (Quick side note…this is probably the category that most people respect least…people don’t like it when you try to play to their emotions. I deal with my emotions and with my friends’ emotions when they need me…if I just know you in passing, don’t expect me to really “feel” with you.)

4. The final group is made up of those people that are on the periphery of the group and constantly butt their way into the core. This sect is usually made of the Know-it-all people that I referenced in my Opinion: Like a Butthole post. These persons do not care if their invited and do not feel the slightest bit awkward about bursting into a random conversation because they always feel like something that they have to contribute is especially important. People who are card carrying members of this group tend to annoy the hell out of people they come into interaction with. Hence, while they persist to get into the inner circle of a functioning “family”, they will never be able to breach the hull because the people are over them before they are even begun.