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Fear 92 of 101: Meeting New People

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While this may not be a fear of some people, I am not a person who necessarily likes meeting new people simply because I’m not good at it. There are many reasons for this.

1) I always make a bad first impression. I am a little bit of an outspoken individual and can come off brash and as an asshole. So, knowing this about myself, I always try to be a little more reserved and observant the first few times the I meet people…so yeah…

2) I’m at that stage in my life where the scope of people that I’m around is pretty much constantly changing…so, I have to meet new people on regular occasion. For instance, I am being pretty quiet in a class that I’m in because I don’t really know any of the people in there…however, the majority of these people will never matter to me. And my path and those who do will diverge quickly.

3) I find most people to be either annoying, useless,  bearable, or likable (I categorize well in my mind). There are very few people that I click with automatically, and there are others that I’m okay with being around them…the rest, I could care less about. Having to meet people and find out that the majority of them fit into the first two categories usually makes me quite sad…but those few that make me have faith in humanity are good.

Overall, it’s an inevitability of life because we all move, and we all move on. But part of the romantic in me hopes that I can keep in touch with people even as I feel some of them slipping out of my fingers like sand in a sieve…Whatever shall be done? I answer we must try to carry on the best we can and meet people…even to our detriment…

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September 20, 2011 at 9:19 pm

Weird Dreams

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So, as some of you out there may k now, I am sort of an insomniac, which I’ve been working on correctly recently with the help of Melatonin…but this is beside the point. When I do sleep well, I sometimes have the most interesting dreams having to do with nothing that I can really connect up to in reality (i.e. Zombie apocalypse dream, Frankenstein’s monster chasing me, etc.). However, lately, I have been having dreams that seem to have a little more coherence within the world of reality than a lot of my previous dreams have…now whether this is simply because I have just been especially attuned to the goings on of the world around me or maybe I should sign up with Dionne Warwick (psychic hotline joke…). But here’s what has been going on…

My first dream is going to seem a little silly, but you know it’s weird the odd coincidence that occurred shortly after having said dream. So, everyone knows Scooby-Doo, right? Well, I had a dream where a chain-smoking Velma, a non-talking Scooby, and I ( a more confident and effective Shaggy) were solving murders rather than tracking down supposed ghosts. Now, I know you may be wondering what this has to do with anything, other than being a really trippy dream, but within a week of having said dream, the Mystery Machine appeared on the campus where I go to school / work…I know that it’s just coincidence, but it’s more than a little eerie that I was just telling my coworkers about the dream the day that we saw it…

My second dream is a little more strange, but I could play this off as  being more intuition than anything else. Recently, I dreamed that my roommate was babysitting someone’s child for them. And in the dream, I wondered 1) who he knew that had a baby and 2) where the hell the baby came from…well, I shared this dream with him, and we both chuckled at the absurdity of it because he doesn’t know anyone close to where we live that has a child…then, some of my really good friends invited us over to watch True Blood (not going to discuss that anymore here…the True Blood I mean). When we arrived, they announced to my friends and myself that they were pregnant…so, yeah. Obviously, we were all excited, but the dream crept back into my mind…

So, I don’t know what’s going on with my mind, but if the zombie apocalypse comes true, I’m going to find someone to blame. 🙂

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August 29, 2011 at 2:42 pm

Mid-Something Crisis: Hmmmm…?

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So, recently, I’ve been perusing my facebook and realized that most of my friends are either married, impregnated, have children, or are a combination of the three. Honestly, I don’t quite understand this phenomenon… I mean I’m not talking about the whole getting married and having kids thing…however, some of my friends are already married with 3 or more children…and they’re my age or younger…It’s just a little odd to me.

 

Now, I know that there are a lot of people are perfectly content with settling down and living the family life. So, yeah…I don’t know…I know that I’m rambling now, but I just am seeking to understand the majority of what is going on in my life with the people that I have surrounded myself with. I keep waiting for several of my recently married friends to have the announcement of pregnancy or something along these same line…and again, the wave of WTF-Mate will wash over me again. Maybe I’m just panicking because I don’t know where my life is going to take me and these others seem to have some solidity in an ever-changing world…Who knows? Maybe, it’s a lack of sleep and an overdose of caffeine. Yeah..

Anyway, I’m going to share with you one of the songs about changing of the world around you. By the band Kansas, “Dust in the Wind” is probably one of the most well-known song for talking about life in general and how we long to cling to everything…yeah….again, maybe, it’s the sleep deprivation…yeah…plus, it has a kick-ass violin solo, which makes the song worth it no matter how depressing it is.

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March 26, 2011 at 11:34 pm

Happy V-D

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So, this Valentine’s Day, just like many in the past, I am not with someone to celebrate. However, I am perfectly okay with that. Now, many people may wonder how a person could be okay with being alone on this day of commercialistic love. It’s simple; I am okay with being alone as of right now.

It may seem a little odd that someone is okay with being alone. Yet, I have a good group of friends that I will probably be hanging out with to watch some television or something like that. It’s actually quite nice to be alone on some of these “holidays” (and I use the term loosely when talking about V-D) because you have no worries about who you have to please or if you have to do something big to make them know that you care about them. I think that it’s all a bunch of crock anyway simply because why do we as a culture have to agree that there is one particular day to tell that one special someone you love that you love them. Honestly, I don’t know that I agree with celebrating V-D simply because it is a ploy to get you to buy your sweet heart (significant other, big momma, sweet daddy, whatever…I could go on with these terms of endearment) a gift to show them that you care.

I mean seriously folks…Does V-D really, truly mean anything beyond the cutesy cherub on the card shooting his arrow into two hearts (which is really gruesome imagery if you really think about it)? I think that it began as a commercial venue to get people to spend money (and yes, I know about St. Valentine…yet, really people don’t know a lot about him because historically, we don’t know that much), and now, we as parts of the world economy feel as though we have to purchase things to be good “lovers” of the world and of those around us. Additionally, I’m not completely blameless on this front. Matter-of- factly, I bought several of my friends presents for V-D because all of us are going to be hanging out with each other on  this holiest of holy love days…eh…I’m not as bitter as I sound in the post…I just wish that people would show each other the love year round instead of having to wait for a special day to do so.

Simply put, I wish that we didn’t have to feel so inclined by the media, by the displays as local chain stores, by the goading of people who don’t really matter (I’m talking about the people who rag on you if you don’t buy someone something on V-D), by the materialistic world that we live in to go out and spend money to show individuals that we love them. Why not say it with a good deed? A smile at the person who is sitting alone? A hug for your friends? So, that would be my idea for the rest of the year, try to make V-D a part of everyday life instead of the extraordinary day of the year.

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February 14, 2011 at 7:50 pm

Total Eclipse: A Desperate Love Song

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So, today, I got the opportunity to attend the wedding of a very good friend of mine. During the wedding, the music was very well placed (not nearly as much music as I would have suspected from said friend…but that’s beside the point). However, it got me in the mood to look at my iTunes library. While doing so, I realized of my copious gigabytes of music I have 330 songs that mention the word love somewhere in their title. That’s not including those that mention love but don’t directly do so in their title. It got me to thinking about love songs. And I settled upon one of my favorites “Total Eclipse of the Heart”.

Now, some people may think that it’s a weird choice. However, I think that it speaks to something inside of each person. It speaks of that love that people desire to feel. The love another person feels that is like the sun or a “shadow on [us] all of the time.” Love is one of those things that no one can truly understand until it happens to them. It’s a very ephemeral thing which is wonderful when people find it. 

The song itself is an 80’s power ballad that everyone knows. Performed originally by Bonnie Tyler (who owns the song by the way), the song has had many incarnations including placement in a German Rock Opera called Tanz der Vampire and in the show Glee. All the versions are interesting to me and good in different ways. Tyler’s version is the quintessential version with    80’s-rific sound and a video to match. The Tanz version has beautiful harmonies and striking people performing it (excpet Kevin Tarte…I can’t approve of a vampire who sings in the daytime on a part bench regardless of the promotional stunt…it’s unseemly). The Glee version is performed admirably by Lea Michelle and Jonathan Groff and is edited well.

Why do I say that it’s a desperate love song? Well, listen to the lyrics. It’s about someone who has had love and now feels like they may lose it. They feel like they’re going to have a “total eclipse of the heart”. However, they are assured by their unheard lover that they should “turn around, bright eyes” because they will find the other person waiting for them.

Needless to say, I wish my friends the best as they embark on this new experience together. May they “hold on forever.”

http://thecreaves.blogspot.com/2010/05/total-eclipse-of-heart.html

Friendship and Terms of Endearment

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So, I have been thinking a lot recently about terms of endearment and how they apply to friendships that I have around me on a regular basis. Now, if anyone heard us having a normal conversation, they would probably think that we were not that close of friends. The reason being terms such as Douche Bag, Bitch, Asshole, and others are parlayed about pretty flippantly. To them, it would probably sound like we were angry at each other. However, quite the opposite is occurring.

My friends and I are not unusual for the age group that we are in, the transition period between being a teenager and being an adult…the true “young adult” phase. It just so happens that using terms such as those previously mentioned are now so overused that they have become as prevalent as showing of friendly love as terms such as BFF or best friend. It’s all a generational thing I believe. As the language has become less faux pas, we have started to incorporate “dirty” or “taboo” words into our normal vernacular. Honestly, I am not bothered by this phenomenon. I come from the stand point that words are words. We are the ones who give them power. If my friend wants to call me a bitch to express his/her friendship with me, who am I to say that this is wrong or right? I mean I’m liable to call them something similar in return.

The fact remains that the “norm” of what is expected of people to say and do to each other has shifted tremendously over the past few decades. Now, you’re liable to hear any and everything being said if you peruse  groups of people. Who knows? Maybe someone will call you with a term of endearment out a crowd.

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April 9, 2010 at 5:02 pm