Posts Tagged ‘friends’
Weird Dreams
So, as some of you out there may k now, I am sort of an insomniac, which I’ve been working on correctly recently with the help of Melatonin…but this is beside the point. When I do sleep well, I sometimes have the most interesting dreams having to do with nothing that I can really connect up to in reality (i.e. Zombie apocalypse dream, Frankenstein’s monster chasing me, etc.). However, lately, I have been having dreams that seem to have a little more coherence within the world of reality than a lot of my previous dreams have…now whether this is simply because I have just been especially attuned to the goings on of the world around me or maybe I should sign up with Dionne Warwick (psychic hotline joke…). But here’s what has been going on…
My first dream is going to seem a little silly, but you know it’s weird the odd coincidence that occurred shortly after having said dream. So, everyone knows Scooby-Doo, right? Well, I had a dream where a chain-smoking Velma, a non-talking Scooby, and I ( a more confident and effective Shaggy) were solving murders rather than tracking down supposed ghosts. Now, I know you may be wondering what this has to do with anything, other than being a really trippy dream, but within a week of having said dream, the Mystery Machine appeared on the campus where I go to school / work…I know that it’s just coincidence, but it’s more than a little eerie that I was just telling my coworkers about the dream the day that we saw it…
My second dream is a little more strange, but I could play this off as being more intuition than anything else. Recently, I dreamed that my roommate was babysitting someone’s child for them. And in the dream, I wondered 1) who he knew that had a baby and 2) where the hell the baby came from…well, I shared this dream with him, and we both chuckled at the absurdity of it because he doesn’t know anyone close to where we live that has a child…then, some of my really good friends invited us over to watch True Blood (not going to discuss that anymore here…the True Blood I mean). When we arrived, they announced to my friends and myself that they were pregnant…so, yeah. Obviously, we were all excited, but the dream crept back into my mind…
So, I don’t know what’s going on with my mind, but if the zombie apocalypse comes true, I’m going to find someone to blame. 🙂
Mid-Something Crisis: Hmmmm…?
So, recently, I’ve been perusing my facebook and realized that most of my friends are either married, impregnated, have children, or are a combination of the three. Honestly, I don’t quite understand this phenomenon… I mean I’m not talking about the whole getting married and having kids thing…however, some of my friends are already married with 3 or more children…and they’re my age or younger…It’s just a little odd to me.
Now, I know that there are a lot of people are perfectly content with settling down and living the family life. So, yeah…I don’t know…I know that I’m rambling now, but I just am seeking to understand the majority of what is going on in my life with the people that I have surrounded myself with. I keep waiting for several of my recently married friends to have the announcement of pregnancy or something along these same line…and again, the wave of WTF-Mate will wash over me again. Maybe I’m just panicking because I don’t know where my life is going to take me and these others seem to have some solidity in an ever-changing world…Who knows? Maybe, it’s a lack of sleep and an overdose of caffeine. Yeah..
Anyway, I’m going to share with you one of the songs about changing of the world around you. By the band Kansas, “Dust in the Wind” is probably one of the most well-known song for talking about life in general and how we long to cling to everything…yeah….again, maybe, it’s the sleep deprivation…yeah…plus, it has a kick-ass violin solo, which makes the song worth it no matter how depressing it is.
Happy V-D
So, this Valentine’s Day, just like many in the past, I am not with someone to celebrate. However, I am perfectly okay with that. Now, many people may wonder how a person could be okay with being alone on this day of commercialistic love. It’s simple; I am okay with being alone as of right now.
It may seem a little odd that someone is okay with being alone. Yet, I have a good group of friends that I will probably be hanging out with to watch some television or something like that. It’s actually quite nice to be alone on some of these “holidays” (and I use the term loosely when talking about V-D) because you have no worries about who you have to please or if you have to do something big to make them know that you care about them. I think that it’s all a bunch of crock anyway simply because why do we as a culture have to agree that there is one particular day to tell that one special someone you love that you love them. Honestly, I don’t know that I agree with celebrating V-D simply because it is a ploy to get you to buy your sweet heart (significant other, big momma, sweet daddy, whatever…I could go on with these terms of endearment) a gift to show them that you care.
I mean seriously folks…Does V-D really, truly mean anything beyond the cutesy cherub on the card shooting his arrow into two hearts (which is really gruesome imagery if you really think about it)? I think that it began as a commercial venue to get people to spend money (and yes, I know about St. Valentine…yet, really people don’t know a lot about him because historically, we don’t know that much), and now, we as parts of the world economy feel as though we have to purchase things to be good “lovers” of the world and of those around us. Additionally, I’m not completely blameless on this front. Matter-of- factly, I bought several of my friends presents for V-D because all of us are going to be hanging out with each other on this holiest of holy love days…eh…I’m not as bitter as I sound in the post…I just wish that people would show each other the love year round instead of having to wait for a special day to do so.
Simply put, I wish that we didn’t have to feel so inclined by the media, by the displays as local chain stores, by the goading of people who don’t really matter (I’m talking about the people who rag on you if you don’t buy someone something on V-D), by the materialistic world that we live in to go out and spend money to show individuals that we love them. Why not say it with a good deed? A smile at the person who is sitting alone? A hug for your friends? So, that would be my idea for the rest of the year, try to make V-D a part of everyday life instead of the extraordinary day of the year.
Friendship and Terms of Endearment
So, I have been thinking a lot recently about terms of endearment and how they apply to friendships that I have around me on a regular basis. Now, if anyone heard us having a normal conversation, they would probably think that we were not that close of friends. The reason being terms such as Douche Bag, Bitch, Asshole, and others are parlayed about pretty flippantly. To them, it would probably sound like we were angry at each other. However, quite the opposite is occurring.
My friends and I are not unusual for the age group that we are in, the transition period between being a teenager and being an adult…the true “young adult” phase. It just so happens that using terms such as those previously mentioned are now so overused that they have become as prevalent as showing of friendly love as terms such as BFF or best friend. It’s all a generational thing I believe. As the language has become less faux pas, we have started to incorporate “dirty” or “taboo” words into our normal vernacular. Honestly, I am not bothered by this phenomenon. I come from the stand point that words are words. We are the ones who give them power. If my friend wants to call me a bitch to express his/her friendship with me, who am I to say that this is wrong or right? I mean I’m liable to call them something similar in return.
The fact remains that the “norm” of what is expected of people to say and do to each other has shifted tremendously over the past few decades. Now, you’re liable to hear any and everything being said if you peruse groups of people. Who knows? Maybe someone will call you with a term of endearment out a crowd.
