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Moving…and Apartments…

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So, if you know me, you know that I am about to move again (sad day). I really despise moving…it’s one of those things that you know that you will have to do, but you never really want to do it. Why? Well, there are many, many reasons.

1) The process itself: Do you ever realize how much crap you accumulate while you live at a certain residence? I do because in the past few years I have moved at least 3 major times. Each time, I have realized exactly the junk that one gathers. You would be surprised…thankfully, I have only lived in these places a year at a time and thin my stuff out from time to time (one of my friends has mentioned that it seems like my family is always having a yard sale).

2)Finding the apartment: I like to go out and look at apartments. However, it’s always a hassle when it comes to some places. I mean really your people can’t go out while it is thundering….even if they’re only walking 200 feet…seriously, I just want to look at the freaking apartment. I don’t want to use them as a lightning rod. If I did, I would be way more crafty than that. Give me some credit. But on the other hand, it is good to see the differences and compare and contrast the product that they’re trying to sell me.

3) Leaving behind people and having to acclimate to another place/group of people: I hate moving most of all because I will have to leave people that I care about. Whether it’s a colleague that I regale stories of the workplace or a person I can sit and watch an episode of a television show with, I hate having to not be around them as much. I go through withdrawal from people…I also don’t like to get to know new people. Most people would probably think that I’m really outgoing; however, I am a little bit of an introvert…it’s one of those things that I’m not that great at. I like to be around the people I know and love….I shouldn’t have to know and love other people. Right?

So, yeah…soon, I will be transplanted again in another place. Here’s crossing my fingers and hoping that all ends well…

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July 15, 2010 at 11:41 pm

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Graduation

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Every year around the nation at this time, there are thousands of people who are gearing up to go out and embrace something new through the miracle that is their graduation. For some, they will continue their education by going to achieve a higher degree. Some will go into the “real” world and experience what life has in store for them.

Graduation is a bitter-sweet time for many people. With the world beginning to open its bounty to the new graduates, the life that they had for the past several years is coming to a close. The friends that they’ve made will not necessarily go along the pathway that they choose. There’s a song from a little musical called Wicked that many of you might know that suits this time of parting and new beginnings. It’s called “For Good.” And my mind tells me that it’s appropriate for such a time.

(Elphaba):
I’m limited
Just look at me – I’m limited
And just look at you
You can do all I couldn’t do, Glinda
So now it’s up to you
For both of us – now it’s up to you…

(Glinda):
I’ve heard it said
That people come into our lives for a reason
Bringing something we must learn
And we are led
To those who help us most to grow
If we let them
And we help them in return
Well, I don’t know if I believe that’s true
But I know I’m who I am today
Because I knew you…

Like a comet pulled from orbit
As it passes a sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder
Halfway through the wood
Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
But because I knew you
I have been changed for good

(Elphaba):
It well may be
That we will never meet again
In this lifetime
So let me say before we part
So much of me
Is made of what I learned from you
You’ll be with me
Like a handprint on my heart
And now whatever way our stories end
I know you have re-written mine
By being my friend…

Like a ship blown from its mooring
By a wind off the sea
Like a seed dropped by a skybird
In a distant wood
Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
But because I knew you

(Glinda):
Because I knew you

(Both):
I have been changed for good

(Elphaba):
And just to clear the air
I ask forgiveness
For the things I’ve done you blame me for

(Glinda):
But then, I guess we know
There’s blame to share

(Both):
And none of it seems to matter anymore

(Glinda):
Like a comet pulled from orbit
As it passes a sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder
Halfway through the wood

(Elphaba):
Like a ship blown from its mooring
By a wind off the sea
Like a seed dropped by a bird in the wood

(Both):
Who can say if I’ve been
Changed for the better?
I do believe I have been
Changed for the better

(Glinda):
And because I knew you…

(Elphaba):
Because I knew you…

(Both):
Because I knew you…
I have been changed for good…

To all the grads, I wish you all the best of luck. Congratulations. Don’t look back with sadness…Go out to conquer the world. It’s a happy time. Go out and enjoy it.

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May 1, 2010 at 12:18 am

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Friendship and Terms of Endearment

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So, I have been thinking a lot recently about terms of endearment and how they apply to friendships that I have around me on a regular basis. Now, if anyone heard us having a normal conversation, they would probably think that we were not that close of friends. The reason being terms such as Douche Bag, Bitch, Asshole, and others are parlayed about pretty flippantly. To them, it would probably sound like we were angry at each other. However, quite the opposite is occurring.

My friends and I are not unusual for the age group that we are in, the transition period between being a teenager and being an adult…the true “young adult” phase. It just so happens that using terms such as those previously mentioned are now so overused that they have become as prevalent as showing of friendly love as terms such as BFF or best friend. It’s all a generational thing I believe. As the language has become less faux pas, we have started to incorporate “dirty” or “taboo” words into our normal vernacular. Honestly, I am not bothered by this phenomenon. I come from the stand point that words are words. We are the ones who give them power. If my friend wants to call me a bitch to express his/her friendship with me, who am I to say that this is wrong or right? I mean I’m liable to call them something similar in return.

The fact remains that the “norm” of what is expected of people to say and do to each other has shifted tremendously over the past few decades. Now, you’re liable to hear any and everything being said if you peruse  groups of people. Who knows? Maybe someone will call you with a term of endearment out a crowd.

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April 9, 2010 at 5:02 pm

“The Road Not Taken”

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“The Road Not Taken”

By Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;         5
 
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,         10
 
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.         15
 
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.         20
 

Each person in their life has a path that lies before them. And I am well aware of that as I continue to plow my way through this world in which we live. I have no clue where I’m going, but I try to make the best of the journey that I’m on. I meet new people along the way; some of which I think of as good friends. And I will be hurt whenever I part from them because I am a person who doesn’t make good connections with people very regularly…it is really a depressing time when I have to lose the camaraderie that I had with a person. It’s a fact that I discovered a long time ago.

While Frost’s poem is good in theory, he thinks of his traveler as one person, but this idea of one person on a road is absurd because we never really travel together(and don’t get me wrong, I do get the message of the poem, but go with me here). Each of us is on this road with our friends and family and have to make a decision whether to keep traveling with the group or whether to break up the fellowship as it were into smaller groups. Each of which goes down each of the multiple paths. Some traveling down the less traveled road, and others will trudge down the well traveled path to avoid disturbing their universe.

Each of us has a destiny in my opinion. We have fellow travelers with us on our own roads. Each of them is looking for something out of the world. It’s nice to have the companionship, but sooner or later, it is a possibility that ways will have to be parted. However, I think the musical Wicked had the right idea about friendship. In the song “For Good”, Glinda and Elphaba sing about changing each other for the better because they have been friends.

“Because I knew you…
I have been changed for good…”

I guess I got on this topic of thought because I was thinking about my next step of going to Graduate School and getting my Master’s Degree. It’s kind of bitter sweet almost because I know that my path will once again be diverging from people that I love and have become attached to…but C ‘est la vie…just like in The Lord of the Rings, the fellowship may be broken, but we’ll still be rooting for the others to get to their own personal Mt. Doom.

God, I hope I didn’t come off sounding like an emo kid…because if I did, I would be rather disappointed in myself…however, I don’t think my writing is angsty enough (hey, had to put a touch of humor at the end.)

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March 20, 2010 at 11:49 pm