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Happy V-D

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So, this Valentine’s Day, just like many in the past, I am not with someone to celebrate. However, I am perfectly okay with that. Now, many people may wonder how a person could be okay with being alone on this day of commercialistic love. It’s simple; I am okay with being alone as of right now.

It may seem a little odd that someone is okay with being alone. Yet, I have a good group of friends that I will probably be hanging out with to watch some television or something like that. It’s actually quite nice to be alone on some of these “holidays” (and I use the term loosely when talking about V-D) because you have no worries about who you have to please or if you have to do something big to make them know that you care about them. I think that it’s all a bunch of crock anyway simply because why do we as a culture have to agree that there is one particular day to tell that one special someone you love that you love them. Honestly, I don’t know that I agree with celebrating V-D simply because it is a ploy to get you to buy your sweet heart (significant other, big momma, sweet daddy, whatever…I could go on with these terms of endearment) a gift to show them that you care.

I mean seriously folks…Does V-D really, truly mean anything beyond the cutesy cherub on the card shooting his arrow into two hearts (which is really gruesome imagery if you really think about it)? I think that it began as a commercial venue to get people to spend money (and yes, I know about St. Valentine…yet, really people don’t know a lot about him because historically, we don’t know that much), and now, we as parts of the world economy feel as though we have to purchase things to be good “lovers” of the world and of those around us. Additionally, I’m not completely blameless on this front. Matter-of- factly, I bought several of my friends presents for V-D because all of us are going to be hanging out with each other on  this holiest of holy love days…eh…I’m not as bitter as I sound in the post…I just wish that people would show each other the love year round instead of having to wait for a special day to do so.

Simply put, I wish that we didn’t have to feel so inclined by the media, by the displays as local chain stores, by the goading of people who don’t really matter (I’m talking about the people who rag on you if you don’t buy someone something on V-D), by the materialistic world that we live in to go out and spend money to show individuals that we love them. Why not say it with a good deed? A smile at the person who is sitting alone? A hug for your friends? So, that would be my idea for the rest of the year, try to make V-D a part of everyday life instead of the extraordinary day of the year.

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February 14, 2011 at 7:50 pm

Happy People and Liars

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So, in my wanderings to and fro in the earth and walking up in down in it (did you like how I just alluded to me being some demonic figure), I have come into contact with many, many people. Now, most people are okay to be around for short amounts of time, but others make me want to club them so that the Sabertooth Tiger outside can have its way with them. Yet, there are some people that I’ll never understand entirely, and these are the ones that it seems like it should be the easiest to understand…the happy people.

You know the ones that I’m talking about. The people who always seem to be happy no matter what happens to them. It’s quite an odd phenomenon if you ask me. However, part of me realizes that for most, this is a finely crafted front. I mean honestly is there anyone out there who could be happy all the time. The answer is no. People by the nature of being people cannot be happy all the time. So therefore, I present to you my strata of “happy” and not-so-happy people.

1) The normal people. These are the ones who seem to be happy at times and are sad, angry, scared, etc. when it is right that they should be. Most people fit into this category if they are any kind of an emotionally mature adult. Let’s face it everyone goes through a plethora of emotions on a daily basis…it’s only a natural thing.

2) The sad sacks/Emo kids. To find a true one of these is rare. I am of the mindset that they don’t really exist and that the people who claim to be them are not really. These people are the ones who always seem to be sad. I don’t know how anyone can accomplish this short of having some mental disorder that they have to treat with medication. People just are sad all the time for no reason…and to those out there who believe they are “emo kids” grow up for the love of God…it’s not all bad. Find something that makes you happy.

3) Happy People: These are the ones that I would consider to be the worst off of all. Why? Because they are the emotional bottlers. They face the world with smile whether it be a real one or one that they have painted on for years. I think they are the worst off because most of them don’t even know that they are making themselves miserable. It’s a fact of the matter that people need to be angry and sad sometimes…You can’t face everything with a smile….and let’s just face it bottling everything up within the framework of that smile isn’t going to end well for someone some day…I also tend to think of these people as “liars”. Not because they necessarily lie to people…but because they are lying to themselves…if you’re not happy, you need to know yourself well enough to be able to openly admit that.

Why you might ask yourself did I write this blog? Well, it’s simple. I have people like the 3rd group around me all the time, and it weirds me out on some level to think that behind that finely polished facade, there is more going on that their smile keeps locked in…and I wonder why.

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April 9, 2010 at 11:48 pm

“The Road Not Taken”

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“The Road Not Taken”

By Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;         5
 
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,         10
 
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.         15
 
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.         20
 

Each person in their life has a path that lies before them. And I am well aware of that as I continue to plow my way through this world in which we live. I have no clue where I’m going, but I try to make the best of the journey that I’m on. I meet new people along the way; some of which I think of as good friends. And I will be hurt whenever I part from them because I am a person who doesn’t make good connections with people very regularly…it is really a depressing time when I have to lose the camaraderie that I had with a person. It’s a fact that I discovered a long time ago.

While Frost’s poem is good in theory, he thinks of his traveler as one person, but this idea of one person on a road is absurd because we never really travel together(and don’t get me wrong, I do get the message of the poem, but go with me here). Each of us is on this road with our friends and family and have to make a decision whether to keep traveling with the group or whether to break up the fellowship as it were into smaller groups. Each of which goes down each of the multiple paths. Some traveling down the less traveled road, and others will trudge down the well traveled path to avoid disturbing their universe.

Each of us has a destiny in my opinion. We have fellow travelers with us on our own roads. Each of them is looking for something out of the world. It’s nice to have the companionship, but sooner or later, it is a possibility that ways will have to be parted. However, I think the musical Wicked had the right idea about friendship. In the song “For Good”, Glinda and Elphaba sing about changing each other for the better because they have been friends.

“Because I knew you…
I have been changed for good…”

I guess I got on this topic of thought because I was thinking about my next step of going to Graduate School and getting my Master’s Degree. It’s kind of bitter sweet almost because I know that my path will once again be diverging from people that I love and have become attached to…but C ‘est la vie…just like in The Lord of the Rings, the fellowship may be broken, but we’ll still be rooting for the others to get to their own personal Mt. Doom.

God, I hope I didn’t come off sounding like an emo kid…because if I did, I would be rather disappointed in myself…however, I don’t think my writing is angsty enough (hey, had to put a touch of humor at the end.)

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March 20, 2010 at 11:49 pm