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It’s Time: An Ad about Marriage Equality

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So I’m not usually political on here… however, I saw this today and had to share with those who frequent my blog.

The video above is a commercial in Australia that is trying to fight marriage discrimination, and I agree it is discrimination that two people in love can’t get married because they are in a same-sex relationship. I have many friends who are Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, or Transgender/Transsexual , and all of them as consenting adults have a right to love who they want and to marry any other consenting adult that they choose. People  argue against it in any number of ways, but in reality,  it’s sad that these people are worried about who is marrying who. May those who preach a message of hate find the error of their ways.

It’s Time Site

Here’s to equal marriage rights soon all over the world!

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November 27, 2011 at 12:52 am

The Last Five Years: Goodbye Until Tomorrow / I Could Never Rescue You

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As most of my readers know, my posts are kind of scatter shot at time because I like many, many things. One of them is musicals, and lately, I’ve been listening to one of my favorites that I come back to on regular occasion: The Last Five Years.

Now, I don’t know how many of you have heard of this musical. It’s written by Jason Robert Brown (he’s amazing) and the original cast recording with Norbert Leo Butz (just won a second Tony for “Catch Me if You Can”) and Sherie Rene Scott (love her!). Anyway, the musical is the story of a couple who falls in love, gets married, and then divorced. However, there’s a narrative twist of sorts in this musical. She is living the process from the divorce to first meeting him while he is experiencing it from the beginning to the end. Below is her first song called “Still Hurting” which is tearful and sad…

The next video is one of two duets of the show. This particular one takes place at the end where Kathy is seeing Jaime go for the first time while he is leaving her forever….it’s called “Goodbye Until Tomorrow / I Could Never Rescue You.” Moreover, this song is probably the most heartbreaking of the show, but it’s beautiful.

I recommend this musical to any and everyone who does not know if they are interested in the genre. It’s beautiful and simplistic…however, the simple is beautiful and complex in this instance. It deals with the human condition, which may be the reason that I come back to it so often.

Mid-Something Crisis: Hmmmm…?

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So, recently, I’ve been perusing my facebook and realized that most of my friends are either married, impregnated, have children, or are a combination of the three. Honestly, I don’t quite understand this phenomenon… I mean I’m not talking about the whole getting married and having kids thing…however, some of my friends are already married with 3 or more children…and they’re my age or younger…It’s just a little odd to me.

 

Now, I know that there are a lot of people are perfectly content with settling down and living the family life. So, yeah…I don’t know…I know that I’m rambling now, but I just am seeking to understand the majority of what is going on in my life with the people that I have surrounded myself with. I keep waiting for several of my recently married friends to have the announcement of pregnancy or something along these same line…and again, the wave of WTF-Mate will wash over me again. Maybe I’m just panicking because I don’t know where my life is going to take me and these others seem to have some solidity in an ever-changing world…Who knows? Maybe, it’s a lack of sleep and an overdose of caffeine. Yeah..

Anyway, I’m going to share with you one of the songs about changing of the world around you. By the band Kansas, “Dust in the Wind” is probably one of the most well-known song for talking about life in general and how we long to cling to everything…yeah….again, maybe, it’s the sleep deprivation…yeah…plus, it has a kick-ass violin solo, which makes the song worth it no matter how depressing it is.

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March 26, 2011 at 11:34 pm

Being Alive?

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In the show stopping number from the musical Company, the main character Robert (or Bobby) is accosted by the people around him because they want him to settle down and marry. They think that it will make him happy to have someone that needs and loves him. And through the song “Being Alive”, we are shown that Bobby wants this relationship, too. But the question I must ask is why does someone have to have a significant other in order for society to see them as the “norm”? I mean seriously what is so wrong with being able to live your life without having someone there wondering where you are or having to check with someone else before you make decisions that might effect you both.

“Being Alive”

By Stephen Sondheim

Someone to crowd you with love,
Someone to force you to care,
Someone to make you come through,
Who’ll always be there,
As frightened as you
Of being alive,
Being alive,
Being alive,
Being alive.

AMY: Blow out the candles, Robert, and make a wish. *Want* something!
Want *something*!

ROBERT:
Somebody, hold me too close,
Somebody, hurt me too deep,
Somebody, sit in my chair
And ruin my sleep
And make me aware
Of being alive,
Being alive.

Somebody, need me too much,
Somebody, know me too well,
Somebody, pull me up short
And put me through hell
And give me support
For being alive,
Make me alive.

Make me confused,
Mock me with praise,
Let me be used,
Vary my days.
But alone is alone, not alive.

Somebody, crowd me with love,
Somebody, force me to care,
Somebody, make me come through,
I’ll always be there,
As frightened as you,
To help us survive
Being alive,
Being alive,
Being alive!

I understand that having a significant other is a noble ideal for most people. I would like to find someone someday, settle down, and have children. I think that that is the preprogrammed animal-side of humanity that courses through our brains. Yet, I also have other goals and dreams which I don’t think I could accomplish if I have a spouse and kids in tow…I mean I would love to visit the world, teach abroad, backpack through Europe, and many other (now clichéd) things. I just don’t think that it’s practical for me to get married right now. Also, I don’t know that I’ve met a woman lately that I would feel comfortable dating…I’m picky…but in a relationship one has to be…Right?

The reason why I am thinking about this subject is one because the song “Being Alive” popped up in a shuffle mix on my iTunes and two because every time I go home my mother asks me about any female friend I’ve been lately…seriously, if I’ve mentioned that I’ve hung out with them at all, she starts asking me about how they’re doing and what they’re doing and such. She’s being very transparent whether intentionally or no…I don’t know….I really just want to ask her can’t I be alone and be happy without her trying to hitch me to someone.

Understandably, my brother and sisters were all married by their early 20’s. Now, as I approach my mid-20’s, I suppose she thinks that I should be married and have kids (mind you, my siblings have grandkids…so that’s not a viable hypothesis).However, I do not see it as such. I’m fine with being free and easy with no ties. Like I said, I do want to marry someday, but right now, I’m a little more career and future oriented.

On the other hand, I am also realistic. If I did meet someone in the next couple of years or months even that I fell in love with, I wouldn’t put that on hold because of my previously said ideas. I would probably marry and continue with everything (a little differently but trying to go down the same course). I guess some people would think that I’m a cynic…and honestly, I’m fine with that in the grand scheme of thing. Think me a cynic, think me an asshole, or think me an angel…it’s really whatever. I know that I will find my own path to “Being Alive”…it’s just a little further down the line.

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March 14, 2010 at 9:31 pm