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Understanding People

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Sometimes, I try to hard to understand why people do the things that they do. Why do some people  create a pattern for their behaviors and then

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do something completely out of this character they have developed? Is it for spite or are they just that sporadic? Why do people choose to be vultures in a parking lot and wait for 15 minutes on a parking place when they could have parked and been in the store already? Why do some people say they are content for years and, then, one day up and completely change what they were doing or who they hang around? Why do people hate those who come to this country to make a better life for themselves by doing jobs that we don’t give two shits about when we are all immigrants ourselves? Why do I ask a shit ton of questions for which I have no answers that even begin to scratch the surface of any of the issues?

I am a people watcher. I like to be around people and interact with them. Now, this should not be mistaken that I like the majority of people because that is simply not true. There are those people who get on my nerves, those that I view as acquaintances, those that I am becoming friends with, those that are my good friends, those that I consider to be my best friends, and then, there’s my family (which is an entirely different story for another time). I like the idea of people, but sometimes they give me no options but to distrust and shy away from them. This comes from the whole idea of really getting into the psyche of a person.  I want to know why people do what they do. What motivates them to be and exist? What causes them to do what they do when they do it? Is there a pattern? Or are they completely random?

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Someone might ask me why I do this. It’s because I feel that everyone has something that is worth examining. Now, this may make me sound cold and scientific, but dismantling the why of a person can be interesting and intense. It can also drive you crazy if there seems to be no reason why someone has done something that makes you angry or sad or happy or whatever. I know it makes me crazy because I want to know this “why” of people….we are creatures that are born with a higher functioning brain for a reason. But what is that and why do we choose to do what we do?

At this point, it’s almost one in the morning, and I’m sitting here writing this when I should be in bed. I’m beginning to ramble, but part of me wants to keep writing because sometimes I wonder why it is that I continue to write blogs that deal with poetry, irritating things, random movies, etc. I know that I enjoy doing it, but is this simple answer a good one in and of itself? Or is there something more that I should delve into to really seek out the heart of why it is that I write? That I continue to watch people? That I continue to question why people feel that they don’t have to explain themselves whenever they perform actions that are out of character for them?

Honestly, I know that I will continue to question people’s motivations. However, maybe I should be asking myself: why the fuck do I care? Again, I’m not completely sure…maybe, it’s because I look for the good in people…who knows? Maybe, I’m just crazy myself…

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October 11, 2011 at 11:51 pm

Clever People and Not So Clever People and Rhetoric

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I am a great people watcher. It intrigues me to sit for an hour outside and watch the people coming and going from place to place. What intrigues me even more? It’s when I hear some of the conversations that some people have as they journey to and fro. I think some conversations are brilliant while some are people trying to sound smarter than what they are. Seriously, if you don’ have a lot of intelligence, you can’t act like you have it. It’s simply something that you cannot fake.

I am reminded of a particular incident involving some people I know. I went to Germany several years ago with the choir of the college I attended. While we were there, we got to tour some beautiful cathedrals and castles. At one particular cathedral, another student said “You know, Dana (the name has been changed to protect people who may know said person), there are two kinds of Gothic architecture.” She said it in such a way that she was trying to sound like she knew something about Gothic architecture. However, in her trying to sound intelligent, she ended up sounding more dumb because while there are variations on Gothic style Gothic architecture does not have “two different kinds” no matter how you slice. This also came from a person who was excited to see a German squirrel…I was just like “Really?”.

Obviously, this person didn’t have a clue as to the gross errors in her logic. Yet, she proceeded on anyway thinking that she was right. She would fit into the group of people having the “not so bright” conversations.

Smart or nerdy people are also interesting to be around to hear conversations. They seem to speak their own languages and tend to me more intelligent on the whole which is a blessing (It can get very taxing listening to dumb people all day). These people will have stirring conversations with one another. These conversations are even more fun when they’re about something that is completely off the wall. My favorites are super power/super hero conversations. Why? Because I love super heroes. These people add spice to my day that normal conversations that most people have cannot.

But this brings me around to my point that I’ve been thinking about. While I don’t necessarily agree with cutting people down (because sometimes it can be mean and the people being taunted don’t deserve it), I like to see the intelligent people interact with their not so bright friends. The reason being that they have a different repertoire with them. They don’t necessarily talk down to them, but oftentimes, they will have to explain more and spend more time catching them up. However, this isn’t the part that catches my interest the most. You’re probably asking yourself what is he getting at, and it’s simply this: I love to hear the more intelligent friends insult those that are weaker minded because they do it by talking over them and making creative “cuts” as it were. What makes it funny for me(and I’m not laughing at the misfortune of the “dumber” friend) ? It’s the skill and thoughtfulness that the higher minded has to use so as to insult the friend but to do it in such a way that they don’ know.

It’s quite humorous how many insults like these get let go. For instance, I used to work with a woman who was not the brightest bulb. She also was one of the most annoying human beings on the earth because she liked to cause turmoil between our co-workers. Sometimes, it would be particularly wonderful for someone to insult her over her head and to watch as she laughed with us. You may think it’s cruel. I don’t know, but I take a certain satisfaction in knowing that there are still those witty people out there who can think on the fly and make something humorous out of nothing. Laughter is the best medicine. Right? To sooth over tempers and conflict. To change a bad situation into one that’s bearable.

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March 20, 2010 at 12:49 am

People Watching

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I don’t know how many of the people who read this actually do it, but I frequently find myself sitting back and watching the train wreck that is humanity. Now, I admit that it’s not all bad. However, I also know that the normal occurences of life aren’t what gather my attention on a regular basis. It’s the crazies out there. You know who I’m talking about. The couple arguing with whispers and large hand movements, the group of guys who look like they’re up to no good, the random woman stalking about in the paper thin dress. Yes, the quirky, odd things of life.

Why do I watch? I gain pleasure from just sitting back and analyzing people. It helps me determine what drives them and define a little more of what they’re about. A forlorn glance to one side when you’re amid a group of raucous coeds tells me that more is on your mind and that you haven’t mentioned it to your friends. A giggle inappropriately during a church services says to me that the conversation you’re having on the bulletin is much more interesting than what the orator is saying. A couple holding hands but having nothing else to do or say with each other as they walk from place to place tells me that that relationship is not going well…or is possibly about to end….There are subtle hints to every mystery of life if you just take the time and watch.

I am a “People Watcher”. I do it because it helps me get a little more info on the human condition and gives me room to think about where we’re at. I also do it because I am an actor. It helps me when I need to build characters later who are nothing like myself (believe me if you’re having to play someone who is quiet and reserved, and you’re not…this kind of thing is handy). So, I would suggest on a sunny, warm afternoon (hopefully this will be soon) going out somewhere and watching the people who are staring up looking at the clouds.

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February 19, 2010 at 9:36 am