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Condescending Phrases: Really? Why not just say it?

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So, this morning I awoke to the sound of thunder crashing, rain hitting my windows, and the sound of my smartphone saying that I had an email. Being the compulsive email checker that I am, I immediately opened it (this is due to a job that I have at the moment…I like to stay connected and much of it is done through email…but anyway). From glancing at my phone, I realized that I had two: one from Big Lots proclaiming that my ad was ready and the other one that said from Me to Me, which I thought was weird. So, I opened this one post haste…and found an email from someone (can’t reveal too much due to reasons that are beyond me…we’ll call them God…yes or maybe Carol Channing) who said “With all due respect”…and yeah….

Alright, I’ll admit for me I had to show a lot of self-restraint…especially to someone who I have never seen nor met…Why one might ask? Well, it makes it easier for me to be an asshole if I’ve never really met a person. Moreover, the phrase “With all due respect” is notoriously condescending in my mind. I mean yes I understand that the person is trying to be nice and say to me that I respect what you have said, but…there’s always the but. Honestly, I don’t necessarily think that one can respect something and immediately turn around and undermine the person’s authority. Needless to say, I would respect some one like this more if they said that they “respectfully disagree”…I feel that this would be a more appropriate phrase to put in email or writing. Again, one might ask why? I feel as though that this is saying it all up front. I’m going to disagree with you from the beginning…alright, I would probably just tell the person that I disagree with them because I’m that kind of person…the respectfully just makes it a little more formal in my mind, which may be going against all that I’ve written to this point but I’m still a little irritated by the person’s email.

So, yeah, it’s always fun answering emails and other forms of correspondence from people who send you items like this. The reason is that you know no matter what you say or do that they are not going to be satisfied with your answers because they’ve already written you off as a casualty to their skewed sense of self-perception. Honestly, these people would probably not fall into the 2% of the world that I could coexist peacefully. My PSA would be before you put this phrase in something you send to someone you perceive to be a lesser think about it and just tell them that you disagree because no matter how you polish it, a condescending turd is a condescending turd is a condescending turd…

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June 28, 2011 at 10:07 am

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Mid-Something Crisis: Hmmmm…?

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So, recently, I’ve been perusing my facebook and realized that most of my friends are either married, impregnated, have children, or are a combination of the three. Honestly, I don’t quite understand this phenomenon… I mean I’m not talking about the whole getting married and having kids thing…however, some of my friends are already married with 3 or more children…and they’re my age or younger…It’s just a little odd to me.

 

Now, I know that there are a lot of people are perfectly content with settling down and living the family life. So, yeah…I don’t know…I know that I’m rambling now, but I just am seeking to understand the majority of what is going on in my life with the people that I have surrounded myself with. I keep waiting for several of my recently married friends to have the announcement of pregnancy or something along these same line…and again, the wave of WTF-Mate will wash over me again. Maybe I’m just panicking because I don’t know where my life is going to take me and these others seem to have some solidity in an ever-changing world…Who knows? Maybe, it’s a lack of sleep and an overdose of caffeine. Yeah..

Anyway, I’m going to share with you one of the songs about changing of the world around you. By the band Kansas, “Dust in the Wind” is probably one of the most well-known song for talking about life in general and how we long to cling to everything…yeah….again, maybe, it’s the sleep deprivation…yeah…plus, it has a kick-ass violin solo, which makes the song worth it no matter how depressing it is.

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March 26, 2011 at 11:34 pm

Fear 96 of 101: People Wearing White Linen Pants and Shorts

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So, recently, on the campus that I work at / go to, I have seen an increasing number of people (both male and female) wearing white linen pants. Moreover, these pants are sheer…which isn’t so bad unless you see that the people are going commando under them. Both of the people I have seen of late were not wearing any underwear, and let’s just say that nothing was left to the imagination. Now, I’m all for people feeling free in their own skin, but I am not a fan of seeing another guy’s or woman’s genitalia while I’m walking about doing my daily activities.

 

**Sheerness levels increase and decrease–For both of these individuals that I saw, it made me wonder what they would do if they got especially sweaty or if it decided to rain that day…Then, we go from sheer with the partial view to complete peepshow…I honestly don’t understand why people would do this because you’re out there, both figuratively and literally.

**God forbid they should not cleanse themselves when going to the bathroom–I don’t feel like I should have to spell this one out…so, I’m not going to…yeah…

My suggestion is either 1) don’t wear the pants like this because they freak people out (I know personally I can’t have a serious conversation with anyone wearing these sheer pants like this…why? Because I’m sitting there going “don’t make eye contact with it…) or 2) wear some damn underwear (I know that it might not look the best in the world because the pants are the aforementioned sheer…but no one really wants to see what you’re packing downstairs [unless otherwise indicated in some other manner]). So, yeah….

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March 18, 2011 at 10:23 pm

Working with People

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I will be the first person to say that if it weren’t for the weird hours and getting less sleep than I usually would third shifts would be for me (matter of factly, I’m working thirds right now which really sucks because I can’t hang out with my friends like I would want to…but it pays better). Why you might ask? It’s because the people you have to deal with working a daytime job…Yes, I know that there will always be people who you will have to deal with on any job…but I’m not talking about the customers. I am in fact talking about the darling coworkers that people have at any job.

I am currently working at a grocery store for the summer. It is a good job, and people I like do work there. However, on the contrary, there is such a  mash-up of personalities that at times I really just want to smack someone and tell them that they are fine. For instance, today, a person I work with came in and was complaining that they were off for two days and now they would have to work to fill the whole in their case and would have to do another job too. They went on to bitch for the better part of two or two and a half hours while nothing was getting done…there I was, I thought many things which I probably shouldn’t share (if you know me, you’ll know that there was probably a cavalcade of colorful language). The common theme of the thoughts was that if she would work instead of bitch things would get done.

Well, you have this person who is a whiner. You have another person who is a dick without justification. You have others who are dumb as rocks and ask how to do things every fifteen minutes. Enter why I don’t like working with others who are not motivated. IF they are motivated and only IF they are motivated will they get passed these things that hold them back and do their job the best that they can.

I feel like I am a very self-motivated person. I have worked several jobs where I did not have a supervisor looking over my shoulders all the time and performed very well. During most of these jobs, I had minimal to moderate interaction with my coworkers. When I did, it was usually with people I consider to be like me which led to an enriching experience. Why can’t all jobs be more like this?

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July 22, 2010 at 7:38 pm

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“I’ve Been”

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A song from the musical Next to Normal taking place after (SPOILER ALERT!!!!) Dan’s wife tries to commit suicide. It is very poignant and gives the audience a peek into Dan’s psyche which is interesting. However, it also pertains to anyone who has ever been in a relationship whether it be friendship or otherwise. It speaks to the inner parts of us as humans because we “could never be alone.”

Dan:
Standing in this room,
Well I wonder what comes now.
I know I have to help her,
But hell if I know how.
And all the times that I’ve been told
The way her illness goes.
The truth of it is no one really knows.
And every day this act we act gets more and more absurd.
And all my fears just sit inside me, screaming to be heard.
I know they won’t, though, not a single word.
I was here at her side
When she called, when she cried.
How could she leave me on my own?
Will it work, this cure?
There’s no way to be sure.
But I’m weary to the bone
And whenever she goes flying
I keep my feet right on the ground.
Oh now I need a lift
And there’s no one around.

Hey!

Gabe:
Hey!

Dan and Gabe:
Ohhh

(Together)
Dan:
Ahhh oooh
No

Gabe:
Ahh oooh
No

Dan:
And I’ve never had to face the world without her at my side.
Now I’m strolling right beside her as the black hole opens wide.
Mine is just a slower suicide.
I’ve been her for the show,
Every high, every low.
But it’s the worst we’ve ever known.
She’s been hurt, and how?
But I can’t give up now.
‘Cause I’ve never been alone.
I could never be alone.

It expresses the fears of someone who is about to embark on a new part of life whether it be forced or no, and the fears that they feel as a result. It speaks to the inner parts of all people…Also, it is just a beautiful song sung by the incredible J. Robert Spencer. Enjoy the song…and the meaning behind it.

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May 1, 2010 at 11:50 pm

Nirvana

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For years, I dreamt of a land.

Far away from this one,

Where people live forever

An immortal land beyond the stars.

But a cold chill came to my consciousness

And told me that my ideas were flawed.

No place existed where we can be free

From sorrow and death.

A queen’s ransom is paid to assuage

My supple longing to feel flesh,

To feel the warm sun upon my hair,

To be wrapped in the wind.

Piteous blackness waits for me

Writhing against my temporal existence

Pulling me into the nothingness

That waits for me beyond the pale

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April 13, 2010 at 11:59 pm

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Happy People and Liars

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So, in my wanderings to and fro in the earth and walking up in down in it (did you like how I just alluded to me being some demonic figure), I have come into contact with many, many people. Now, most people are okay to be around for short amounts of time, but others make me want to club them so that the Sabertooth Tiger outside can have its way with them. Yet, there are some people that I’ll never understand entirely, and these are the ones that it seems like it should be the easiest to understand…the happy people.

You know the ones that I’m talking about. The people who always seem to be happy no matter what happens to them. It’s quite an odd phenomenon if you ask me. However, part of me realizes that for most, this is a finely crafted front. I mean honestly is there anyone out there who could be happy all the time. The answer is no. People by the nature of being people cannot be happy all the time. So therefore, I present to you my strata of “happy” and not-so-happy people.

1) The normal people. These are the ones who seem to be happy at times and are sad, angry, scared, etc. when it is right that they should be. Most people fit into this category if they are any kind of an emotionally mature adult. Let’s face it everyone goes through a plethora of emotions on a daily basis…it’s only a natural thing.

2) The sad sacks/Emo kids. To find a true one of these is rare. I am of the mindset that they don’t really exist and that the people who claim to be them are not really. These people are the ones who always seem to be sad. I don’t know how anyone can accomplish this short of having some mental disorder that they have to treat with medication. People just are sad all the time for no reason…and to those out there who believe they are “emo kids” grow up for the love of God…it’s not all bad. Find something that makes you happy.

3) Happy People: These are the ones that I would consider to be the worst off of all. Why? Because they are the emotional bottlers. They face the world with smile whether it be a real one or one that they have painted on for years. I think they are the worst off because most of them don’t even know that they are making themselves miserable. It’s a fact of the matter that people need to be angry and sad sometimes…You can’t face everything with a smile….and let’s just face it bottling everything up within the framework of that smile isn’t going to end well for someone some day…I also tend to think of these people as “liars”. Not because they necessarily lie to people…but because they are lying to themselves…if you’re not happy, you need to know yourself well enough to be able to openly admit that.

Why you might ask yourself did I write this blog? Well, it’s simple. I have people like the 3rd group around me all the time, and it weirds me out on some level to think that behind that finely polished facade, there is more going on that their smile keeps locked in…and I wonder why.

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April 9, 2010 at 11:48 pm

The Fine Art of Insanity

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Now, if you talk to people who are around me on a regular basis, most of them will probably tell you that I’m a little off. I know this. I’m a little “over exuberant” (a term which I used several times in an interview for a job). I’m am a little odd to say the least. However, I believe there is a fine art to being “insane”…now, I’m not saying that I’m psychotic or something like that; I’m just saying that I do and say things a little odd sometimes which is perfectly fine in my own little world (It’s okay they all know me here…j/k).

1) There is a fine line between knowing when to be crazy and when to get down to business. Now, I’ll admit that even I have a difficulty with this from time to time. I like to do random things to see people’s reaction to it. I like to burst out into a showtune and try to get people to sing along. However, there is an appropriate time and a place when you should not do this. For example, you should not do this when you with a group of people and it’s crunch time. Your “over exuberance” will not be appreciated…it will probably receive threats of some sort.

2) Funny Haha…and not so funny OMG…There are differences in the things that you can say. Random is usually good….the more off the wall, the more likely it will be appreciated and laughed at. People like to laugh at the randomness and quirks of some people (think of how Jim Carrey and Robin Williams have careers). However there is the shock comedy that some people like to try…which is mainly for attention…this comedy is not really well received (such as making jokes about people’s deaths right after they happened). This is usually frowned on and should be discouraged…

3) Know who you’re around. There are some people that will be okay with the insanity, but you should also be able to read them and see if they’re still receptive to it. There is nothing that makes a situation more awkward than someone trying to be a little off killter….and then,other people in the group get pissed. You should be able to divine other people around you’s moods or should only act “crazy” around those people who love and understand you.

4) You should be the lovable kind of “crazy”. Not the annoying kind. There are differences. The lovable crazies aren’t “on” all the time. They understand that there is a time and a place for their antics. The annoying ones usually don’t and will not restrain themselves at all…this is why they are annoying because this lack of control…

so, yeah…I think that I might be a little “insane”, but at the same time, I know that there is a time and a place for all things.

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March 29, 2010 at 11:14 pm

Clever People and Not So Clever People and Rhetoric

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I am a great people watcher. It intrigues me to sit for an hour outside and watch the people coming and going from place to place. What intrigues me even more? It’s when I hear some of the conversations that some people have as they journey to and fro. I think some conversations are brilliant while some are people trying to sound smarter than what they are. Seriously, if you don’ have a lot of intelligence, you can’t act like you have it. It’s simply something that you cannot fake.

I am reminded of a particular incident involving some people I know. I went to Germany several years ago with the choir of the college I attended. While we were there, we got to tour some beautiful cathedrals and castles. At one particular cathedral, another student said “You know, Dana (the name has been changed to protect people who may know said person), there are two kinds of Gothic architecture.” She said it in such a way that she was trying to sound like she knew something about Gothic architecture. However, in her trying to sound intelligent, she ended up sounding more dumb because while there are variations on Gothic style Gothic architecture does not have “two different kinds” no matter how you slice. This also came from a person who was excited to see a German squirrel…I was just like “Really?”.

Obviously, this person didn’t have a clue as to the gross errors in her logic. Yet, she proceeded on anyway thinking that she was right. She would fit into the group of people having the “not so bright” conversations.

Smart or nerdy people are also interesting to be around to hear conversations. They seem to speak their own languages and tend to me more intelligent on the whole which is a blessing (It can get very taxing listening to dumb people all day). These people will have stirring conversations with one another. These conversations are even more fun when they’re about something that is completely off the wall. My favorites are super power/super hero conversations. Why? Because I love super heroes. These people add spice to my day that normal conversations that most people have cannot.

But this brings me around to my point that I’ve been thinking about. While I don’t necessarily agree with cutting people down (because sometimes it can be mean and the people being taunted don’t deserve it), I like to see the intelligent people interact with their not so bright friends. The reason being that they have a different repertoire with them. They don’t necessarily talk down to them, but oftentimes, they will have to explain more and spend more time catching them up. However, this isn’t the part that catches my interest the most. You’re probably asking yourself what is he getting at, and it’s simply this: I love to hear the more intelligent friends insult those that are weaker minded because they do it by talking over them and making creative “cuts” as it were. What makes it funny for me(and I’m not laughing at the misfortune of the “dumber” friend) ? It’s the skill and thoughtfulness that the higher minded has to use so as to insult the friend but to do it in such a way that they don’ know.

It’s quite humorous how many insults like these get let go. For instance, I used to work with a woman who was not the brightest bulb. She also was one of the most annoying human beings on the earth because she liked to cause turmoil between our co-workers. Sometimes, it would be particularly wonderful for someone to insult her over her head and to watch as she laughed with us. You may think it’s cruel. I don’t know, but I take a certain satisfaction in knowing that there are still those witty people out there who can think on the fly and make something humorous out of nothing. Laughter is the best medicine. Right? To sooth over tempers and conflict. To change a bad situation into one that’s bearable.

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March 20, 2010 at 12:49 am

Being Alive?

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In the show stopping number from the musical Company, the main character Robert (or Bobby) is accosted by the people around him because they want him to settle down and marry. They think that it will make him happy to have someone that needs and loves him. And through the song “Being Alive”, we are shown that Bobby wants this relationship, too. But the question I must ask is why does someone have to have a significant other in order for society to see them as the “norm”? I mean seriously what is so wrong with being able to live your life without having someone there wondering where you are or having to check with someone else before you make decisions that might effect you both.

“Being Alive”

By Stephen Sondheim

Someone to crowd you with love,
Someone to force you to care,
Someone to make you come through,
Who’ll always be there,
As frightened as you
Of being alive,
Being alive,
Being alive,
Being alive.

AMY: Blow out the candles, Robert, and make a wish. *Want* something!
Want *something*!

ROBERT:
Somebody, hold me too close,
Somebody, hurt me too deep,
Somebody, sit in my chair
And ruin my sleep
And make me aware
Of being alive,
Being alive.

Somebody, need me too much,
Somebody, know me too well,
Somebody, pull me up short
And put me through hell
And give me support
For being alive,
Make me alive.

Make me confused,
Mock me with praise,
Let me be used,
Vary my days.
But alone is alone, not alive.

Somebody, crowd me with love,
Somebody, force me to care,
Somebody, make me come through,
I’ll always be there,
As frightened as you,
To help us survive
Being alive,
Being alive,
Being alive!

I understand that having a significant other is a noble ideal for most people. I would like to find someone someday, settle down, and have children. I think that that is the preprogrammed animal-side of humanity that courses through our brains. Yet, I also have other goals and dreams which I don’t think I could accomplish if I have a spouse and kids in tow…I mean I would love to visit the world, teach abroad, backpack through Europe, and many other (now clichéd) things. I just don’t think that it’s practical for me to get married right now. Also, I don’t know that I’ve met a woman lately that I would feel comfortable dating…I’m picky…but in a relationship one has to be…Right?

The reason why I am thinking about this subject is one because the song “Being Alive” popped up in a shuffle mix on my iTunes and two because every time I go home my mother asks me about any female friend I’ve been lately…seriously, if I’ve mentioned that I’ve hung out with them at all, she starts asking me about how they’re doing and what they’re doing and such. She’s being very transparent whether intentionally or no…I don’t know….I really just want to ask her can’t I be alone and be happy without her trying to hitch me to someone.

Understandably, my brother and sisters were all married by their early 20’s. Now, as I approach my mid-20’s, I suppose she thinks that I should be married and have kids (mind you, my siblings have grandkids…so that’s not a viable hypothesis).However, I do not see it as such. I’m fine with being free and easy with no ties. Like I said, I do want to marry someday, but right now, I’m a little more career and future oriented.

On the other hand, I am also realistic. If I did meet someone in the next couple of years or months even that I fell in love with, I wouldn’t put that on hold because of my previously said ideas. I would probably marry and continue with everything (a little differently but trying to go down the same course). I guess some people would think that I’m a cynic…and honestly, I’m fine with that in the grand scheme of thing. Think me a cynic, think me an asshole, or think me an angel…it’s really whatever. I know that I will find my own path to “Being Alive”…it’s just a little further down the line.

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March 14, 2010 at 9:31 pm