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Happy V-D

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So, this Valentine’s Day, just like many in the past, I am not with someone to celebrate. However, I am perfectly okay with that. Now, many people may wonder how a person could be okay with being alone on this day of commercialistic love. It’s simple; I am okay with being alone as of right now.

It may seem a little odd that someone is okay with being alone. Yet, I have a good group of friends that I will probably be hanging out with to watch some television or something like that. It’s actually quite nice to be alone on some of these “holidays” (and I use the term loosely when talking about V-D) because you have no worries about who you have to please or if you have to do something big to make them know that you care about them. I think that it’s all a bunch of crock anyway simply because why do we as a culture have to agree that there is one particular day to tell that one special someone you love that you love them. Honestly, I don’t know that I agree with celebrating V-D simply because it is a ploy to get you to buy your sweet heart (significant other, big momma, sweet daddy, whatever…I could go on with these terms of endearment) a gift to show them that you care.

I mean seriously folks…Does V-D really, truly mean anything beyond the cutesy cherub on the card shooting his arrow into two hearts (which is really gruesome imagery if you really think about it)? I think that it began as a commercial venue to get people to spend money (and yes, I know about St. Valentine…yet, really people don’t know a lot about him because historically, we don’t know that much), and now, we as parts of the world economy feel as though we have to purchase things to be good “lovers” of the world and of those around us. Additionally, I’m not completely blameless on this front. Matter-of- factly, I bought several of my friends presents for V-D because all of us are going to be hanging out with each other on  this holiest of holy love days…eh…I’m not as bitter as I sound in the post…I just wish that people would show each other the love year round instead of having to wait for a special day to do so.

Simply put, I wish that we didn’t have to feel so inclined by the media, by the displays as local chain stores, by the goading of people who don’t really matter (I’m talking about the people who rag on you if you don’t buy someone something on V-D), by the materialistic world that we live in to go out and spend money to show individuals that we love them. Why not say it with a good deed? A smile at the person who is sitting alone? A hug for your friends? So, that would be my idea for the rest of the year, try to make V-D a part of everyday life instead of the extraordinary day of the year.

Written by uncannynerdyguy

February 14, 2011 at 7:50 pm

Being Alive?

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In the show stopping number from the musical Company, the main character Robert (or Bobby) is accosted by the people around him because they want him to settle down and marry. They think that it will make him happy to have someone that needs and loves him. And through the song “Being Alive”, we are shown that Bobby wants this relationship, too. But the question I must ask is why does someone have to have a significant other in order for society to see them as the “norm”? I mean seriously what is so wrong with being able to live your life without having someone there wondering where you are or having to check with someone else before you make decisions that might effect you both.

“Being Alive”

By Stephen Sondheim

Someone to crowd you with love,
Someone to force you to care,
Someone to make you come through,
Who’ll always be there,
As frightened as you
Of being alive,
Being alive,
Being alive,
Being alive.

AMY: Blow out the candles, Robert, and make a wish. *Want* something!
Want *something*!

ROBERT:
Somebody, hold me too close,
Somebody, hurt me too deep,
Somebody, sit in my chair
And ruin my sleep
And make me aware
Of being alive,
Being alive.

Somebody, need me too much,
Somebody, know me too well,
Somebody, pull me up short
And put me through hell
And give me support
For being alive,
Make me alive.

Make me confused,
Mock me with praise,
Let me be used,
Vary my days.
But alone is alone, not alive.

Somebody, crowd me with love,
Somebody, force me to care,
Somebody, make me come through,
I’ll always be there,
As frightened as you,
To help us survive
Being alive,
Being alive,
Being alive!

I understand that having a significant other is a noble ideal for most people. I would like to find someone someday, settle down, and have children. I think that that is the preprogrammed animal-side of humanity that courses through our brains. Yet, I also have other goals and dreams which I don’t think I could accomplish if I have a spouse and kids in tow…I mean I would love to visit the world, teach abroad, backpack through Europe, and many other (now clichéd) things. I just don’t think that it’s practical for me to get married right now. Also, I don’t know that I’ve met a woman lately that I would feel comfortable dating…I’m picky…but in a relationship one has to be…Right?

The reason why I am thinking about this subject is one because the song “Being Alive” popped up in a shuffle mix on my iTunes and two because every time I go home my mother asks me about any female friend I’ve been lately…seriously, if I’ve mentioned that I’ve hung out with them at all, she starts asking me about how they’re doing and what they’re doing and such. She’s being very transparent whether intentionally or no…I don’t know….I really just want to ask her can’t I be alone and be happy without her trying to hitch me to someone.

Understandably, my brother and sisters were all married by their early 20’s. Now, as I approach my mid-20’s, I suppose she thinks that I should be married and have kids (mind you, my siblings have grandkids…so that’s not a viable hypothesis).However, I do not see it as such. I’m fine with being free and easy with no ties. Like I said, I do want to marry someday, but right now, I’m a little more career and future oriented.

On the other hand, I am also realistic. If I did meet someone in the next couple of years or months even that I fell in love with, I wouldn’t put that on hold because of my previously said ideas. I would probably marry and continue with everything (a little differently but trying to go down the same course). I guess some people would think that I’m a cynic…and honestly, I’m fine with that in the grand scheme of thing. Think me a cynic, think me an asshole, or think me an angel…it’s really whatever. I know that I will find my own path to “Being Alive”…it’s just a little further down the line.

Written by uncannynerdyguy

March 14, 2010 at 9:31 pm