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Friendship and Terms of Endearment

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So, I have been thinking a lot recently about terms of endearment and how they apply to friendships that I have around me on a regular basis. Now, if anyone heard us having a normal conversation, they would probably think that we were not that close of friends. The reason being terms such as Douche Bag, Bitch, Asshole, and others are parlayed about pretty flippantly. To them, it would probably sound like we were angry at each other. However, quite the opposite is occurring.

My friends and I are not unusual for the age group that we are in, the transition period between being a teenager and being an adult…the true “young adult” phase. It just so happens that using terms such as those previously mentioned are now so overused that they have become as prevalent as showing of friendly love as terms such as BFF or best friend. It’s all a generational thing I believe. As the language has become less faux pas, we have started to incorporate “dirty” or “taboo” words into our normal vernacular. Honestly, I am not bothered by this phenomenon. I come from the stand point that words are words. We are the ones who give them power. If my friend wants to call me a bitch to express his/her friendship with me, who am I to say that this is wrong or right? I mean I’m liable to call them something similar in return.

The fact remains that the “norm” of what is expected of people to say and do to each other has shifted tremendously over the past few decades. Now, you’re liable to hear any and everything being said if you peruse  groups of people. Who knows? Maybe someone will call you with a term of endearment out a crowd.

Written by uncannynerdyguy

April 9, 2010 at 5:02 pm

Word Vomit

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So, I prefer to think of myself as a simple guy…doing simple things and living life…I am a “Real Boy” as it goes. However, I also know that I am sometimes a little too blunt for my own good. While this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, this phenomenon is what I refer to as “word vomit”…this is when your mind makes your mouth let out your thoughts before your mind actually has the logical connect to say “Whoa…you might not want to say that”…but it’s already happened and causing the world to come crashing down.

Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that I don’t have tact because tact is a very useful thing in any business that you decide to stake yourself down to. Being in the teaching profession myself (for the next little while anyway), I realize that there is a time and a place for tact. For example, when a student comes in and gives me a lame excuse for why their paper is late or why they were out sick, sometimes, I just want to say “why don’t you have the ‘nads to tell me that you don’t give a damn about the assignment and just go on.” Don’t just lie to my face…it’s really quite shameful to me. I would much rather have brutal honesty than have someone dancing on pins and needles around me wondering if they’re going to disrupt my universe.

Unless the person wears their heart on their sleeve (to use a cliché that I warn my writing students not to do), they aren’t going to be any more hurt/slash offended than before. I like people who handle the honesty well…it makes telling them things like “your outfit is terrible” or “yeah you should have dumped that bitch sooner” less of a blow and  more easily digested. Why should you have to sugar-coat your relationship with your friends by using little white lies?

So, I guess I’m saying to all of those people out there who like to have the world tiptoe around them that you need to suck it up and live your life taking heed of what others say but not putting so much stock in it that you are reduced to a crumpled mess of tears and snot whenever someone gives you the honest truth that you asked for.

Written by uncannynerdyguy

February 17, 2010 at 1:13 am